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Keep a diary and a phone log

I touched on keeping a diary earlier, but it is worth further explanation.

You must document everything!

You are building a case, so start your log entries while you are still living with your spouse. Keep your journal up to date; be sure to make an entry every day. Things to pay particular attention to are:

Before the Separation

• Time you went to work,
• What you did at work;
• When you left work;
• What you did after you left work;
• Time you arrived home;
• What you made for dinner (Yes, you need to start making dinner);
• What time the kids went to bed;
• What bills were paid;
• What bank deposits made;
• When you had sex with your spouse;
• Things the kids said;
• Things your spouse said.

After the Separation

• Time you went to work,
• What you did at work;
• When you left work;
• What you did after you left work;
• Time you arrived home;
• What you made for dinner (Yes, you need to start making dinner);
• What time the kids went to bed;
• What bills were paid;
• What bank deposits made;
• Things the kids said;
• Every phone call between you and your spouse;
• Strange things your kids say;
• Visitation exchange time and place;
• Anything your spouse says to you.

Note: The "after separation" list contains everything from the "before separation" list EXCEPT FOR the log entry indicating sex with your spouse.

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