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Stay calm and collected

Never get angry!

If you are mad you are not going to think clearly. I made the mistake of being goaded into saying something once to my spouse during an exchange. It came back to haunt me, but in the end did not hurt my case. It was just one more thing to cover, which generated letters between lawyers, and questions during the deposition and trial. I blew a couple hundred dollars because I slipped and made a stupid comment.

When you find yourself getting angry, meditate in whatever form works for you. You might want to just sit back in a comfortable chair, take a walk, or lie flat on your back on the floor and think about something that makes you happy (or at least something that will divert your mind from the matter.)

Do not get depressed.

Sure it sucks to have the carpet pulled out from under you, but deal with it. Life is interesting when it gets thrown up in the air. Call old friends, re-establish relationships that have fallen off, depend on your family. You will have to find someone that will listen to you rant. But make sure that is not the basis of every conversation or you will find that that person starts screening their calls. Be a friend and you will find friends.

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