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Summary

• Find a good family law attorney in your area, have a meeting with them BEFORE any physical separation;

• Sit down with your spouse and attempt to come up with an agreement on your own. Take it to a notary public and both of you sign it in front of the notary;

• Keep the kids in your physical control;

• NEVER leave the house with the intention of moving out, unless you take the kids with you;

• Get your spouse to move out without the kids;

• Save as much money as possible before the separation;

• Never resort to anything physical. Do not throw anything; do not hit anyone or anything in the house.

• Document everything!

• Do not use foul language in front of the kids;

• When you get angry, do not say a word. Go outside for a walk;

• Seek ways to resolve your separation and divorce without litigation;

• Be a friend to everyone;

• Become a miser! Hold on to every dime as long as possible and know when and where you spent it;

• Prepare to be attacked;

• Do not attack your spouse;

• Think of good things to say about your spouse;

• Think of your positive points as a parent;

• Think of a few negative points about yourself;

• Let someone very close to you know what is happening and keep them up to date. But do not reveal any confidential information regarding your case. People love to talk!

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